Hey there, I’m a mid-20s white male solo traveler, standing at a cool 180cm. So, I’ve been exploring Indonesia for a while now, and let me tell you – the attention I get here is something else. It all started with a few friendly hellos and photo requests from folks on the streets, kids playing around, shop workers – basically, everyone under the sun. At first, I found it endearing and happily posed for a few snapshots. But as my travels took me off the beaten path to less touristy spots, the constant attention is starting to wear me out.
Just the other day, I stepped out of my room and was instantly bombarded with greetings, offers for rides, questions about my plans – you name it. Seeking refuge in a coffee shop, I thought I could enjoy some peace and quiet. But nope, the friendly staff there had different plans. As I settled at a table, looking forward to some alone time, one of the employees approached me with a request to snap a pic for the shop’s Instagram. Now, after a long day of travel, all I wanted was to unwind in peace. So, for the first time, I politely declined. The employee seemed a tad disappointed but took it well. And here I am, wondering – was I in the wrong for turning down photos or trying to keep to myself? It’s just that the constant attention, solely based on my skin color, is draining. I can’t be the only one feeling this, right?
So, fellow travelers, have any of you been in a similar boat? How did you handle the spotlight when all you wanted was a breather? Let’s chat about the highs and lows of being the center of attention in a foreign land. Hit me up with your experiences and thoughts – I’m all ears.