I recently took a three-week solo trip around Europe, visiting three countries and staying in a different type of accommodation in each: a dorm hostel, a pod hostel, and a hotel. Planning the trip was a real rollercoaster of emotions for me. I’m a socially anxious person and had never travelled alone before, so I was really worried about going and being miserable – wasting my money and then feeling worse about myself. But despite all my doubts, I took the plunge.
My aim on the trip was to push myself out of my comfort zone and put myself in social situations, be in challenging situations that would force me to adapt without leaning on anyone else, learn to be content by myself in public, and do all the fun things that interested me.
I’m happy to report that I achieved all of my goals! It wasn’t always easy. The first day was especially tough, and I found that staying connected with my family and friends back home, practicing mindfulness, meditation, and journaling really helped. I was also pleasantly surprised to find that there were times where people struck up a conversation with me – while waiting in lines, in hostel rooms, and so on – and I reciprocated.
One of the most important things I learnt on this trip was that it’s ok to be alone. I learnt that I can still have a great time and make memories, even if I’m by myself. I also learnt that it’s ok to reach out for help and connection if you need it. I feel much more confident now, and I’m looking forward to travelling alone again soon.