So, I gotta spill the tea on what went down just 20 minutes ago in this dorm room. I’ve been flying solo on this three-month travel journey, and I rolled into a new hostel today. Found myself rooming with this one dude, which, let’s be real, isn’t exactly ideal, but hey, I try not to judge too quickly. Although, at this point, all men seem like they belong in some medieval dungeon.
This guy starts getting all chatty, and we have a little chat. Then, he goes ahead and asks if I wanna smoke (which I’m not into). The dude’s being a bit too forward, but I brush off the weird vibes ’cause I generally have a high tolerance for nonsense. So, I’m in the bathroom, getting ready for bed, glasses off (crucial detail), and he asks me the time (like, dude, you’ve got a phone). I tell him, and then he’s like, “No, come here so I can see you.” I peek around the corner, and I’m almost 100% sure he’s doing the deed, but alas, I didn’t have my glasses on.
Now, I’m not one to shy away from confrontation, and I’m sick and tired of men’s BS, so I loudly ask, “What are you doing?” And he’s all like, “Nothing.” So, I retreat back to the bathroom to collect myself, put my glasses on, walk back out, and pretty much confirm my suspicions. Just then, a new girl walks in, and suddenly, he’s all tucked under the covers. I pull her aside, tell her we gotta bounce, and we demand a room change. The front desk staff were super understanding and offered to call the cops if I could confirm 100%, but I couldn’t, which really bums me out ’cause I would’ve loved to see him taken away.
I’m just grateful that if this had to happen to someone, at least I’m capable and willing to stand up to a guy, unlike someone younger or less fed up with people’s crap. From now on, it’s female-only dorms for me. Honestly, those have been my best experiences on this trip, hands down. As a woman, all I really want is to exist safely without constantly having to be on high alert around men. I don’t care if it’s not all men, it’s always men